Anger

Dear Women,

Good morning! Hope you had a great weekend and have an even better week. You know what really gets me upset? Seeing people, particularly women, over-react to situations, or simply react poorly because they are angry. It really gets to me, and not just because I’ve been on the receiving end of said anger, but because it’s detrimental to all parties involved. I wrote last week about dealing with emotional reactions, but this one is more about dealing with anger. It’s the worst and hardest of emotions to be reactive about. There’s ALWAYS fall-out from anger. There’s no pretty message in this rant, this is plain and simple. Control it! Control yourself! Learn how to or learn what tips/tricks work best for you. You’re better than you portray yourself to be in times of anger. And don’t ever let people or society as a whole see you as weak-minded or out of control. It’s inexcusable and worse-off, it’s not who YOU want to be or are! No one wants to be an angry person, no one wants to be viewed that way. So don’t do it. It’s a harsh way to come about this, but the truth of the matter is, everyone gets angry. Everyone has things that just drives them up the wall and make them want to yell or lash out at someone. Just control yourself! You. Are. Better than that. And if you’re not right now, you should be. You are a beautiful person. I always compare women, all women, to princesses. Can you think of a story involving a princess where she (the good princess, let’s not throw out a Game of Thrones reference here) over-reacts and makes a good decision in her anger? No! Of course you can’t! Anger is a terrible motivating factor and doesn’t allow you to think clearly. And heaven knows, in these times today, we all need to be thinking clearly, about others and most importantly, about ourselves. Anger in any given moment stems from revenge. You want to make that other person feel as bad as they made you feel. Or you want to hurt that person as much as they hurt you. This is childish and beneath you. Be the princess. You ARE the princess. So go about it the way that you should and I know you can. “Kill ‘em with kindness” (thanks Mom). Sounds corny but it works! It works!!! That person who hurt you can’t hurt you if you don’t let them, and if you don’t let it show that you’re angry or hurt as a result of it, they failed. In trying to anger someone and not being able to, the have failed. Make them a failure. Don’t become one with them. It’ll elevate you up, and ultimately and most importantly, it’ll get you what you want!!! Stop the yelling. Stop the screaming. Stop saying hurtful things because you’re hurt. And stop with all the anger! Each and every one of you reading this is a great person. Beautiful; inside and out. Don’t allow Anger to rear it’s ugly head out and change that truth. Not even for a second. I’ve said it a hundred times and I’ll say it again; You are better than that. You deserve better than that. And the world needs better than that from you. You are the princesses and future queens of this world. We rely on your for future generations, a guide and a model of how we should all strive to be. Don’t sully that, not for us and most notably not for yourselves. You are the givers of life, the progenitors. You’ve shaped this world into what it is and can continue shaping it in your image. The image of beauty, kindness and understanding. Each and every one of you embodies beauty, kindness and understanding. So exude it. Be it. Own it. You are amazing after all… So please, be happy, smile, be strong, and as always; Much Love, Smile On.

Sincerely,
Hopeless Romantics