Dear Women,
Good morning, I hope you’ve been staying warm in this cold weather! I feel the need to touch on a subject that hits close to home as a friend of mine is dealing with it now. I want to just talk about heartache. That terrible feeling when, for whatever reason, you are left feeling alone, you feel unloved, you feel betrayed, you feel just not good because someone else couldn’t or wouldn’t reciprocate your love/feelings. This is a tough scenario, I know we’ve all been there, and no, no one deserves to feel that way. However, this is also life, and as such, it is a part of growing, not only growing up/maturing, but growing emotionally within yourself. We all know the 7 Stages of Grief – Shock & Denial, Pain & Guilt, Anger & Bargaining, Depression/Reflection, The Upward Turn, Reconstruction & Working Through, and lastly, Acceptance & Hope. I also know that while in the situation, the last thing you want to hear is, “It’s healthy to feel that way.” Or “It’ll be okay”; “You’ll make it through and be better as a result of it.” Yes, we know this. Thank you very much, but seriously? Not helping… Yes, I get it. But if you do anything, just remember the 7 stages of grief exist, they are real, they are nearly tangible. NO ONE is beyond them. We are all human, we all feel these emotions, and although react differently with them, we all have to go through them. And that’s the main point I want to make here. Yes, it’s terrible, and it hurts me to see people I know and / or care about going through this. It truly hurts me. But you can’t just “Get over it” as I’ve heard so many people say. It’s not one of those things that you can just “Get over”. We had to just “Get over” the fact that Santa wasn’t real, or that Game of Thrones keeps killing off main characters left and right. Those are things we just have to “get over”. But not love. Not love lost. Oh no, it’s way worse than that. You see, with Love, we need to get THROUGH these feelings. We need to feel all these terrible stages of grief. I know, “Why?” you’re asking. “Why can’t we just put it behind us and be done with it? They didn’t have time for me, or they’re not feeling this way…etc” The reason is, because you’re better than that. You’re worthy of love. You’re worthy of loving and being loved again. And without going through these emotions, the final stage might never become complete for you. You NEED to be able to accept what happened and look towards the future. No matter your age or situation, you have your life ahead of you. You have people that care about you and that love you. I care about you and love you. So please do not think yourself unloved. Please do not think you are alone. You are never alone. Stay strong, I know it’s hard. Let yourself feel. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be upset, or angry, or alone-feeling. Don’t just ignore those feelings, don’t just try and “Get over them”. Feel them. Know them. Own them. And when you do, you will be able to push through, and you’ll start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. You are a person, undefined by those around you that love you. You are a person who defines those around you with your love. Don’t forget that. You’re amazing. And I know it hurts. If I could take it all from you, I promise I would. But I can’t. Lastly; please don’t forget that you are loved. You are beautiful. And you are never alone. And as always; Much Love, Smile On.
Sincerely,
Hopeless Romantics
Wax Poetic 