Dear Women,
Good morning, I hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend and have an even better upcoming week. I love when people put others feelings before their own and act in an accord that allows for those that they care about or love themselves to walk away unscathed. And this is important in life. It’s a perspective that differentiates the best of friends and lovers from everyone else. But be careful when you’re making impactful life decisions to make those choices based on YOUR emotions. There are times when others will be hurt based on your decisions, and I know that feels horrible. If you’re one of these people, hurting those that you love and care for is one of the worst feelings on the planet. But you are only given one chance, one life, one today, a world of tomorrows and a life-time of yesterdays. Always hold Tomorrow as the next step on the path towards your heart’s desires and let Yesterday with its regrets and “what-ifs” fall by the way-side. There will always be questions of what-if. You can’t do EVERYTHING. Trust me, I’ve tried. Evaluate yourself, evaluate your present state – what makes you, you today. What do you want today. What do you need today. And look at your Future-state – who do you truly wish to be tomorrow. What do you want not for today and any immediate gratification, but what do you want tomorrow, and tomorrow’s tomorrow, so forth and so on. And what do you NEED in the future to be you, to feel loved, to be the person living the life you wish to lead. Look at the gap between both states and evaluate what you think will be the best way to get to where you want to be. This can be difficult in situations when multiple options present themselves, and maybe the You of today doesn’t know what she wants, or can’t figure out which she wants. This is a tough position to be in, but look at the larger picture, remove the emotions and immediate / short-term repercussions of your actions to those around you and look at the situation objectively. What do you define as love? What do you want out of love? What sort of life/relationship are you looking to lead? Then, without bias, without taking into account the “consequences of your actions” look at which situation will get you to that point. Which situation will allow you be that person. And which situation will afford you your definition and desire for love. Emotions can be managed, time truly heals all, and people who truly and deeply care for you will be there for you regardless. These deeply impactful life decisions are difficult to make because they really have to come from a place deep inside you and often affect those around you. This creates a seemingly insurmountable conundrum. But it isn’t an impasse, it is a defining moment perhaps, but never an end-all, be-all. My final word/suggestion is this: The way you felt yesterday or today is subject to change – The person you are striving to become and live as tomorrow doesn’t – And the negative outcomes, hurt feelings and difficult situations are only short-lived. You have the rest of your life to live and to be happy. Don’t sacrifice or even risk that because of a what-if today, because of a difficult decision or because of potentially hurtful results. Be true to yourself. Follow your heart. Listen to what it tells you. That feeling that “feels right” versus the one that seems to “make sense” is often the right one. Love doesn’t always “make sense”. But you’ll know it when you feel it. Don’t deny that because of a difficult situation or decision. True love is forever. Situations, by definition, are just situations and they too shall pass. Remember that no matter what you do, everything will be okay in the end, if it’s not okay now, it’s not the end – keep going. And as always; Much Love, Smile On.
Sincerely,
Hopeless Romantics
Wax Poetic 