Confidence & Worth

Dear Women,

Good afternoon, hope this pleasant Monday is treating you well and that your spirits are high. Today I need to get this off my chest; there should be something else that YOU also hold high… Your confidence. This is an amalgamation of previous rants (Self-worth and Regrets), but I feel it is important. I have a few friends right now struggling with this very issue. Perhaps you’ve made mistakes in the past that haunt you at your core, or perhaps you’ve lived through such traumatizing events that you have a hard time separating your existence and worth from those events. I’ll address these, because as a man who looks at every one of you and smiles because of the sheer value you add to society, this shit bothers the hell out of me! First off, we all make mistakes. We all do things we regret. Unfortunately, we all break promises that we wish we could (or really wanted to) keep. I get it. These aren’t great things. You’re not going to look back in your life and revel to your grandkids over that one. Fine. You fucked up. Get over it! We all make mistakes, big and small. Each mistake is simply a learning experience, to simply not make that same mistake again! These aren’t fun experiences, trials and tribulations to go through. I’m not saying to chuckle and be proud of yourself, but an individual (or group/series of) decisions you’ve made don’t define who you are. They may help to shape (positively or negatively) who you are, but they don’t DEFINE you. You, intrinsically are a great person. You have a good heart. You mean well. And you’re a beautiful being that adds grace to this world every day by simply smiling, and existing. Own your mistakes. Learn from your mistakes. Admit that they are/were mistakes. And be done with it. It’s over. You are worthy of love, and you are worthy of more than you give yourself credit for. Stop feeling down. And don’t you dare feel bad for yourself. You are worthy of more than pity. You are better than pity. And at the end of the day, pity won’t get you heading down the path you want to be on. What’s done is done, you can’t turn back time (and if you can, Private Message me, we NEED to chat). Put your left foot, in front of your right, and start walking. Move forward. Open your heart again. And when you look in the mirror see YOU, not the mistakes and dumb decisions you’ve made. You’re more than that. You’re better than that. And you’re a beautiful, good and worthy person. Now, moving to the other thought; We’ve all had rough things to go through or happen to us (or those around us). Some harder than others, but how things affect each of us are different, so comparing, down-playing or contrasting is useless. Shitty is shitty, bottom-line. Those horrible things may even be more horrible to try and get over, or deal with, or even simply manage. But you must. For the sake of all people throughout the world, for our future generations to come, for all the people who silently revel in your existence and smile every day, and most of all, for yourself. You are better than those circumstances and situations. You were built for more those circumstances and situations. And you were meant to experience more happiness, love and/or respect than those circumstances and situations warranted. It’s difficult, it can even seem impossible. But it’s not. I promise you that you are loved. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Accept the travesties and hard times. Then put your chin up, pick your heart up, smile and put one foot in front of the other. And as I said before, walk forward. Stop looking backwards. Own your confidence, it is yours and no one, and no thing should be able to take it away from you. And be loved. You are worthy of Love. Despite your past, your Present-self and Future-self deserve Love. And you ARE loved. So; Much Love, and as always, Smile On.

Sincerely,
Hopeless Romantics